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Getting Started with Counselling

Counselling can be hugely beneficial for many people in a wide variety of situations including helping people to cope with depression and anxiety, bereavement, relationship difficulties, sexual and racial issues, early childhood abuse, mental health issues and addictions. Counselling offers people a safe, confidential place to talk about life issues and problems that may be confusing, painful or uncomfortable. 

It may be that you have been referred by your GP for counselling, perhaps it’s been suggested to you by a partner, friend or colleague that you seek counselling help or maybe you have decided yourself that enough is enough and you need to do something about the way you are feeling.

Very often, people can feel that they should be able to resolve their personal issues by themselves. They may feel uncomfortable and perhaps have a sense of apprehension that has prevented them from seeking assistance for their problems before. They may feel that seeking help is a sign of weakness, the truth is, it is a sign of strength.

If you decide that counselling may be of help please contact us. We will start by booking in a meeting to assess your current needs and we can discuss whether our approach will be the most beneficial way for you to proceed. If so, we will then arrange an appointment with one of our counsellors at a mutually agreeable time.

What to expect in Counselling

Counselling offers a space where you will be listened to attentively in a respectful and empathic way. This experience is rare in our daily lives, to have a quiet space without interruption is a very unique and cathartic experience for many.

Our aim is to create a space for reparative healing to take place. We try to achieve that ambition by listening to you with acceptance and understanding so that you can begin to view yourself and your experiences from a different perspective. Often the difference is that you become kinder towards yourself and more tolerant of your mistakes and short comings. We aim to allow you to be able to recount significant and painful times in your life and share your feelings associated with those events. Through the process of counselling, we aim to enable you to gain a greater understanding about yourself and learn how past experiences may have caused blockages resulting in an inability to express yourself effectively in the present.

Through this learning we aim for you to be equipped to make better choices and positive life changes and feel more able to cope with emotional challenges in the future.

Your right to privacy

Whatever you feel able to share with your counsellor will be respected and held in confidence. We passionately believe in your right to privacy. That said, in certain situations there has to be some limitations to that assurance of complete confidentiality. For example, if our counsellor concluded that you are seriously intent on doing harm to yourself or indeed others it would be necessary to do something about that. We would act in accordance with our conscience, the law and the ethical codes of conduct that are expected of counsellors and indeed anyone who cares enough about people not to ignore the prospect of potential harm to any individual.

What we don’t do

Our Counsellors do not give advice. How could we? If we did it would be to impose our values, personal beliefs and our experiences upon your life as if we know best what’s right for you. Even though you may be thinking that if only I could be told what to do by an expert then everything would be okay. We think that is a mistaken belief borne out of an understandable conclusion that ‘everything I have tried has failed, there’s nothing else I can do’. We don’t believe that and therefore we won’t give you advice. Instead we believe you are the expert on your own life and therefore encourage you to start to listen to yourself and learn to have greater trust in your judgements in the future.